My childhood did not hold many happy memories for me. In fact, my past is something I do not wish to recall. However, I`m grateful for the lessons I learned at the time. I grew up in a family where not a day went by without any vulgar language ringing in our ears. “You are a piece of nothing. You are just like your mother or father, and will never amount to anything. That’s why they left you here with me!” These are some of the impatient, bitter words shouted quite regularly by our disillusioned grandmother. I would spend half my day angry and cry and often doubting that my parents loved me. You can just imagine how depressing that would be to a child and what it would do to their self-esteem and confidence. In fact, it kills every dream you may have as a child.
Surprisingly, out of all that – I learned something!
It’s not about your past. It is not about your future. It`s about your NOW and what you are willing to do right now so that you never go back but reflect back to remind yourself of where you came from. What you should be willing to do right now is WORK on you DREAM.
I completed my matric in 2004 and in 2005 I worked in a shop for four months. I was employed as a general worker packing shelves all day. As short as I was, my job required that I should carry heavy boxes on my shoulders. I hated that work and realizing that it would get me nowhere, quit after four months of earning R30 per day.
I went on to open a corner tuck shop after borrowing money from my father for stock (fruit, sweets, cigarettes and so on). I also stocked all the other products sold on Johannesburg street corners. Determined to hustle my way through life, I heard about “Love life” (South Africa’s largest youth leadership, life skills, and HIV/AIDS awareness campaign). Love life has been at the forefront of promoting healthy lifestyles and social agencies among South African teenagers since 1999). I moved back to Mpumalanga to volunteer as a facilitator. When I completed my one year of voluntary work, I relocated back to Johannesburg. There I worked for a landscaping company, digging holes for water pipes with nothing but a pick and shovel.
You can have anything you want in life. You can be whatever you want to be. As inspiring as those statements may be, there is something very important we need to drum into people’s heads. This is the secret: you cannot be what you want to be or achieve what you want to achieve unless you put in some work and work it out. Sometimes we are so caught up in daydreaming or wishful thinking, we forget that success can elude us. Success will not know that you desire it unless you work towards it. You may wish for it but it does not respond to wishes.
When you work, you take action and when you act, circumstances change and you begin to see your life in a different light. Lazy people never achieve or amount to anything as they are inclined to talk more than they work. If they are given something to do, they complain and never complete anything they start. Indira Gandhi, Prime Minister of India (1917-1984) once said, “My grandfather once told me that there were two kinds of people: those who do the work and those who take the credit. He told me to try to be in the first group as there was much less competition”. So, in everything you do in life, your plan will never succeed unless you work it out.
There is a certain philosophy called “Power consciousness” which I read about one day. In T Harve Erker`s book, “Secrets of A Millionaire Mind”
Power consciousness is what you feel when you know you can do something and you know how to do it. Therefore you know you can succeed and you know how to succeed. If you are confident of these two factors, failure is highly unlikely. In fact, it would be impossible to fail if you really tried. Never give up, work on that dream till it becomes a reality.